Updated: May 24
Life can feel overwhelming at times, especially when faced with repeated stressors and changes. You're in that boat right now. It feels like you can't catch a break. Transitions, changes, instability, a new wave every day. You are exhausted. When does life finally quiet down? It can be challenging to feel like you are losing control of your life. However, it's important to remember that you are not alone, that change is the only constant, and that there are ways to regain control over your life and find personal fulfillment. I can't assure you a perfect life, if I did, I would be lying. But what I can assure you of is that you can find a growing sense of purpose, and when you do, you begin to find direction.
So, here are ten strategies to help you regain some control over your life:
Practice Self-Care: Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is essential when life feels overwhelming. Take time for yourself each day to do something that brings you joy, whether that's reading a book, taking a walk, or practicing a hobby. This can help you feel more centered and in control. Self-care also looks like waking up to a glass of water, having your daily vitamins, and telling your dog you love them when they first greet you bright and early.
Find Support: When you are feeling overwhelmed, reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can be helpful. Talking through your concerns and feelings with someone who cares can provide you with support and reassurance. It also reminds you that the world is innately communal, that you are not alone.
Develop a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of structure and control in your life. Plan out your day and stick to a schedule as much as possible. This gives you a personal sense of consistency. When the world is in flames, your routine stays constant.
Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness can help you stay present in the moment and reduce anxiety about the future. Consider practicing mindfulness exercises such as meditation or breathing techniques to help you feel more grounded and centered. Explore the concept of the monkey mind which explains how powerful the breath is in centering us back to the present moment.
Learn to Say No: It's important to set boundaries and prioritize your needs. Saying no to requests or commitments that do not align with your values or goals can help you feel more in control of your time and energy. Also remember, setting boundaries seeks to preserve valuable relationships, not hurt them.
Identify Your Triggers: When life feels overwhelming, certain situations or people may trigger feelings of anxiety or stress. Take time to identify your triggers and develop coping mechanisms to help you manage your emotions.
Seek Professional Help: If you are feeling overwhelmed or struggling to cope with life changes, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or mental health professional. Your therapist can serve as a container and sounding board for you to leave your worries with.
Focus on What You Can Control: When faced with uncertainty, it's important to focus on what you can control. Identify the areas of your life that you have control over, such as your thoughts, behaviors, and reactions.
Take Action: It can be helpful to take action and make changes when life feels out of control. This may include making lifestyle changes, seeking support, or setting boundaries.
Practice Gratitude: When life feels overwhelming, it can be challenging to focus on the positive. Practicing gratitude can help shift your perspective and increase feelings of happiness and contentment. Try a 2-minute gratitude practice every morning and night.
Remember, regaining control over your life takes time and effort. It's important to be patient with yourself and celebrate small victories along the way. With time you will find appreciation for the mundane, success in the little wins, and joy in the motions,
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